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Russell Russell: A strong hobby can resist aging. I eat and drink as I please and sleep as I please. I don’t care whether it’s good for my health or not. As long as I have strong hobbies and appropriate activities, I don’t have to worry about aging at all. 1. Carefully choose your ancestors as role models. My maternal grandfather died at the age of 67, in his prime, and the other three relatives all lived to be over 80 years old. Only one of his more distant relatives did not live long, but he died by being beheaded. One of my great-grandmothers lived to be 92 years old. My maternal grandmother gave birth to 10 children, 9 survived, and one died in infancy. After becoming a widow, she immediately devoted herself to women's higher education.
She was one of the founders of Girton College, which worked to get women into the medical profession. She always liked to tell a story about an old gentleman she once met in Italy. The gentleman had a sad face, and she asked him why. The gentleman said the two grandchildren had just left. "My God!" she cried, "I have seventy-two grandchildren, and if I grieved every time one of them was gone, I should be dead!" said the gentleman. "Strange mother." As one of her 72 grandchildren, I'd say I prefer her perspective.
When she reached the age of 80, she began to have difficulty falling asleep and often read popular science books between midnight and three in the morning. I don't think she had time to notice that she was aging. I think this is the best way to stay young. If your interests and activities are broad and strong, and you can feel that you are still energetic, you don't have to think about how many years you have lived, let alone your future, which may not be very long.
As for health, since I have almost never been sick in my life, I have no useful advice. I ate and drank as much as I wanted, and continued to sleep when I couldn't wake up. I never do things based on whether they are healthy or not, even though the things I enjoy doing are often healthy.
2. Avoid dwelling too much on the past.
From a psychological point of view, old people need to avoid being too obsessed with the past. One cannot live in memories, in nostalgia for the good old days or in mourning for deceased friends. You should focus on the future and things that require you to do something. It is not easy to do this, and the influence of the past is always increasing. People tend to think that their emotions in the past were much stronger and their minds sharper than they are now. If it is true, forget it; if you can forget it, then your self-righteousness may not be true.
3. Avoid expecting to gain strength from the vitality of young people.
Old people should avoid clinging to young people and hoping to gain strength from their vitality. When the children grow up, they all want to live according to their own wishes. If you still care about them as much as you did when they were young, you will become a burden to them, unless they are unusually slow people. This does not mean that you should not care about your children, but that this kind of care should be implicit and, if possible, generous, and should not be overly emotional.
4. Appropriate hobbies
I believe that it is not difficult to successfully live in old age if you have strong hobbies, appropriate activities, and are not affected by personal emotions. Only then can longevity be truly beneficial; the wisdom born of experience can be applied without being oppressive. It is useless to warn adult children not to make mistakes, because firstly they will not believe you, and secondly mistakes are an essential element of education.
However, if you are the kind of person who is dominated by personal emotions, you will feel that if you do not put your thoughts on your children and grandchildren, you will feel that your life is empty, then you must understand that although you can still serve them Offer material help, such as giving them money or knitting them a woolen coat, but never expect them to feel happy in your company.
5. Fear of death is meaningless
Some elderly people suffer from fear of death. Young people are understandably afraid of death. Some young men feared they would die in battle. They feel pain at the thought of losing all the good things life has to offer them. This worry is not unreasonable and is understandable. However, for an old man who has experienced the joys and sorrows of this world and fulfilled his personal duties, fear of death is a bit pitiful and tragic.
The best way to overcome this fear is to gradually expand the scope of your interests and make them impersonal, until bit by bit the walls surrounding yourself leave you and your life becomes more and more integrated with everyone else. in life. Everyone's life should be like a river - small at first, confined between its narrow banks, then rushing passionately through boulders and sliding down waterfalls. Gradually, the river channel widened, the river banks expanded, and the river flow became smoother.
Finally, the river flows into the ocean without any obvious interruptions or pauses, and then painlessly sheds its own existence. An old man who can understand his life in this way will not suffer from the fear of death, because everything he cherishes will continue to exist. And if fatigue increases as energy wanes, sleep is not an unwelcome thought.
I long to die while still able to work, knowing that others will continue what I have left unfinished, and that I can take comfort in the fact that I have done my best.
| Bertrand Russell |
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